Good Enough Men
You weren't meant to figure yourself out alone. Online men’s groups for going deeper together.
8-Week Men’s Group
October 1st through November 19th from 6pm PST to 8pm PST
Week 1: Orientation and Breaking Ground
Introductions, group agreements, why we’re here, personal and communal intentions
Week 2: Family of Origin & Shadow Work
Who are the people that shaped us
Week 3: Siblings, Roles, & Belonging
Who we needed to be to belong and the parts we left behind
Week 4: Inner Child
Who are we when we feel most safe and accepted?
Week 5: Friendship & Male Connection
What does closeness and intimacy look like in your relationships?
Week 6: Intimate Relationships, Sex, and Pornography
What’s getting in the way of the love that we want
Week 7: Career, Worth, & Purpose
What’s our role in the whole?
Week 8: Integration and What Remains
What are we nurturing and harvesting from this experience?
Frequently Asked Questions
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An 8-week group for men who want a space to be real. Each week we take on one theme, such as family, friendship, sex, career, or the parts of ourselves we keep hidden, with the same men in the room every time.
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Men who look like they have it together and are tired of holding it all alone. No experience with therapy or groups needed — just a willingness to show up authentically.
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We meet weekly over telehealth for two hours: a short grounding practice, a check-in, and then an honest conversation guided by that week's theme. Between sessions, a short reading or question keeps the thread alive.
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Sessions will be held over Zoom on Thursdays from 6pm to 8pm PST beginning October 1st and ending November 19th.
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The program is $400 for all 8 weeks. Sliding-scale spots as low as $250 are available for those who need them, as we want this work to be accessible to anyone who feels called to show up in community.
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No. While we'll be exploring therapeutic territory such as family of origin, intimacy, shame, the inner child, this is a facilitated men's group, not group therapy. We're licensed therapists, but in this space we're facilitators: guiding the process, holding the container, and doing the work alongside you. If something comes up that would be better served by individual therapy, we're glad to help you find the right support.
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Because this isn't therapy, what's shared here isn't protected the way it would be in a clinical setting so we're up front about that.
What we do hold, firmly, is a shared agreement of anonymity: what happens in the group stays in the group. You're welcome to talk about your own experience outside our meetings, but never anyone else's story or identity. The trust we build is only as strong as the container we all agree to keep and protecting it is every member's responsibility, not just ours.
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You’re still welcome here exactly as you are. The group will include men at every stage of this work with some being seasoned and some being brand new. In many ways, coming in fresh is an advantage: you bring what Zen practitioners call "beginner's mind," an openness that men further along are often working hard to get back to. All that's required is a willingness to show up honestly.
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Donald Winnicott, a prominent 20th-century psychoanalyst, coined the term "good enough mother" in response to the myth that perfect parenting is what's necessary for healthy child development. It's actually the mother's ordinary, imperfect care, even her small failures, that allows the child to develop a real self. We're borrowing that idea for men taught that their worth depends on flawless performance. Being "good enough" isn't settling, but rather meeting ourselves exactly where we're at, and letting go of the perfectionism that keeps men isolated and ashamed. When we own our limitations instead of hiding them, real connection becomes possible.
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Life happens, and one missed week won't undo your progress. That said, we strongly encourage you to show up for yourself and for the other men counting on your presence. The real value of this group isn't in any single topic but it's in the container and culture we build together week over week, and every man's presence is part of what makes that possible. If you know you'll miss a session, let us know in advance so the group can hold your absence rather than wonder about it.
Meet Your Facilitators
Noah Eastman, LMFT
Noah is a licensed psychotherapist with six years of experience across settings ranging from elementary schools and homeless shelters to the carceral system, along with facilitating men's groups, archetypal improv, and storytelling gatherings. What brought him to this work was a quiet, persistent sense that he wasn't enough as he was. Sitting in circles with other men taught him he didn't need to fight his shadows and win — he just needed a space to let go of who he thought he had to be.
Jake Sims, LMFT
Jake is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with years of experience in social services, facilitating groups for therapists, and sitting in men's groups himself. He works from a psychodynamic frame woven with contemplative traditions, attending to what lives beneath the surface of men's lives. For him, men's work is about showing up to the parts of ourselves that carry shame and discovering what happens in a community that can hold them.
Ready for the next step?
You don't need to be certain to apply - just to be curious. The application takes a few minutes, and we'll follow up personally to see if the group is a good fit.
